Before couples are married we ask that you thoroughly prepare for this life-long relationship. Marriage preparation is not a one day event, but rather a timely process. We ask that all couples complete the pre-marriage assessment used by Harvest Church to better understand your partner before you say "I do!" This assessment is meant for you and your partner to take TOGETHER so take your time, connect with your partner, and go deeper. **Please note that the pre-marriage assessment must be completed before you submit a marriage application.** Thank you! (Estimated time to complete: 60 minutes)

Your relationship with your partnerʼs parents and family may be one of the most significant relationships in your married life. It is important at the outset of your marriage and in the first years of your marriage to understand these relationships and what blessings and difficulties may be ahead for you and your spouse.

Anybody who has been in an intimate relationship will know that people express and receive love in different ways. In this section we will dive deep and uncover the way(s) your partner receives/expresses love. Enjoy!

There are probably more books written on personal communication in marriage than any other subject (sexual affection may be a close second). Many newly married couples believe that they were communicating effectively during their engagement and early months of marriage. They find that they have been able to plan their wedding, determine where to live, and establish who will do what during the first few months. After several months of marriage they may find that there are a lot more decisions and details to work through than had been anticipated. Therefore, learning to communicate effectively with one another can eliminate many of the stresses that might otherwise arise.

This section of the inventory focuses on one aspect of communication — conflict. The importance of this review is to help you identify some of the causes of being hurt and the feelings you experience in fighting or being hurt. But before you get busy, here is our bias on this – we think that conflict is normal (that is, it happens in even the best relationships) and that it can motivate you to change and grow. Hence, conflict is not all bad.

Money and financial planning can cause great stress in marital relationships. According to some research, it is a consistently difficult area for the newly married couple and one of the major problems throughout the marital history. Money habits in the first few years of marriage can carry on throughout the marriage history. Hence, the questions about "money and vocational expectations."

Some couples who come to us for premarital / marital mentoring have been married or lived common law prior to this covenant. There are some particular issues that these couples will need to face. These questions are intended to assist you in talking about some of these issues. **Please skip this section if it does not apply to you**